A journey in search of a stolen life.

 

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This cross was hand-carved by my daughter to mark my grandmother’s grave.

My grandmother, Annie, died in 1959 and the marking of her grave also marked the end of a journey which began some years ago; a journey to discover the truth buried beneath the wreckage of Annie’s life.

I requested and obtained permission to view the records that were kept by Talgarth Mental Asylum when my grandmother, Annie, was incarcerated there for 18 years of her life, from 1930. The victim of terrible domestic violence, her husband had Annie committed for depression. Annie was taken from her nine children, one of them still a babe in arms. The records show that she tried to escape to get home to her children but was captured and taken back.

My mother grew up believing Annie didn’t want to come home to them because that was the lie their father told them.

The records made for harrowing reading. I spent a day in the archives, faithfully recording every entry in that massive, leather bound tome, and did not allow myself to weep until the journey home. I vowed I would write her story one day. It is a promise I intend to keep. I didn’t write it at that time because it was too close to my heart, too harrowing, just too overwhelming in every way.

My day at the archives was the end of a long journey which had begun with researching my family history and ended with a burning passion to write fictional stories portraying the real difficulties faced by women in the past, the culmination of which is my three novels in the Megan Jones trilogy.

Here is an extract from my journal, recorded on the emotional day I went in search of Annie’s birthplace;

At the end of the farm lane I saw a signpost and my heart leaped with hope because I’d imagined the old place would  be no more than a derelict pile of stones in some isolated place. As I drove up the track, with the wind blowing and the April sun breaking through the clouds, a flock of crows rose up, as one, from the field. Flying against the wind, they twisted and turned overhead before soaring away and my spirits soared at the sight of them. The mass of the Eppynt mountain loomed ahead as the lane steepened towards a brow in the hill. I felt a tug of the heart and a sob rose in my throat – on the edge, as I was, of arriving at the place where dear Annie’s life began.

Sadly, on my arrival I was to discover that nothing remained of the house where Annie was born. It had been demolished to make way for cowsheds. It is symbolic, in a way, because the life my granny Annie expected to live was raised to the ground, obliterated, as surely and ruthlessly as the house where she was born.

My family history, like all history, is liberally sprinkled with women whose lives were blighted; by the inequalities of society or through the neglect, stupidity or downright cruelty of others – a pattern I’ve seen repeated in my own life.

Most of what I know of Annie comes from the stories of other people who knew her, and from the medical records of the asylum.  The medical records state bald facts, which in the light of all else I know, are all the more distressing.

My granny had beautiful black hair of which she was very proud. By day, she wore it plaited and rolled into a bun at the nape of her neck. At night, she undid that plait and let her hair fall down. It was so long, she could sit on it and with the help of her little girls, it was given 100 brush strokes, every night before bed.

When she was carted away to the asylum, she believed she was going to have a short rest. Her nightmare began on arrival. The first thing they did was to chop off her hair, her beautiful long mane of glossy, black hair. It was a standard procedure; head lice being rife in such institutions, long hair would pick them up and spread them like wild fire.

She must have been a stunner, Annie, before hard toil, nine children, and a poor diet ravaged her. It was noted in their ledger that she had grey eyes; a stunning combination with that long black hair. She was underweight and undernourished and had an overactive thyroid. She was on her last legs when she entered that place and they all but knocked her legs from beneath her.

What hellish place must she have thought she’d been brought to? This was no rest home, no holiday, this was hell itself. She tells them a mistake has been made and they must let her go immediately; home to her children who would be worrying where their Mam had gone.

She tells them why she has been unable to cease crying (the reason given for her admission); that her husband knocked her about and threatened to kill her. The following are some of the comments written in their ledger, repeated year after year.

“She is suffering from delusional psychosis. States that prior to admission, her husband desired to get rid of her and had made several attempts on her life.”

“Her delusions change little as time goes on. She still believes her husband was trying to get rid of her and made serious attempts on her life.”

“She remains much the same mentally. She gives a very poor account of herself. She continues to state that her husband used to knock her about a great deal and several times threatened to kill her.”

For eighteen years, every time she was interviewed by a psychiatrist, Annie told them the same story about her husband. Every time she told it, it was seen as evidence of her delusional madness.

The tragedy is that she spoke the truth. Her husband was a brutal man and he had, indeed, knocked her about for years, and attempted to murder her, strangling her by the throat in one of his rages. He would have succeeded if he had not been dragged off by his oldest daughter and two sons.

It was her husband who was the lunatic, and he had succeeded in carrying out his threat to get rid of her, not by killing her but by having her incarcerated in the asylum he should have been in himself. The reason for her committal was her continuous crying. One of the psychiatrists described her, unsympathetically, as emotionally unstable, confused, and lachrymose. I’m sure if he had been in her shoes, he would have been all those things himself, would not have diagnosed himself as insane but as showing a normal response to the irrational and abusive treatment meted out by her husband.

Annie suffered a most terrible injustice. She should have been protected but instead she was locked up in the asylum in 1930 and did not get out until 1948. Cold blooded murderers do less time. Annie suffered what she did, for as long as she did, because she spoke her truth.  She had no idea that in speaking the truth, she was providing them with the ‘evidence’ to back up their misguided theories as to her mental state.

I would like to be able to say that such injustices were few and far between, but in truth they were all too common. As recently as 2007, a lady of 85 years of age was finally traced by her family, 70 years after being committed to an asylum in 1937, under the 1890 Lunacy Act. She was 15 when she was committed for the ‘crime’ of stealing half a crown from the doctor’s surgery where she worked as a cleaner. The money was later found, but too late for this poor girl. She spent the rest of her life being shunted from one mental institution to another, until she was moved to a care home in her old age.

Many of these dreadful places were closed down towards the end of the 20th century. Stories abound of how these elderly ladies then being released had been placed there as young girls of fourteen or fifteen, for the ‘crime’ of having illegitimate babies. Yet, no man was ever imprisoned for having fathered one.

So many lives were never lived. Such cruelties were commonplace. Before her death in 1797, Mary Wollstonecraft was writing a novel entitled Maria; The Wrongs of Woman. The novel’s heroine, Maria, has been placed in a madhouse by an abusive husband who seeks to control her money and her liberty for his own ends. In those days, it was only too easy for a man with money to have his unwanted wife committed to a privately paid asylum.

The parallels between Annie’s story and Wollstonecraft’s heroine, Maria, are obvious. Both were sent to the madhouse by duplicitous husbands and for spurious reasons. I’m sure Mary Wollstonecraft must have hoped that one hundred and fifty years after her death such things would not still be happening. In Annie’s case, it seems that her continued incarceration for so many years was due to laziness on the part of those who could have properly helped her; they chose not to investigate whether what she was saying was true, and chose instead to reaffirm their own misguided beliefs.

There is no changing the past. What is done cannot be undone. But I hope that in the telling of Annie’s truth some small piece of justice will finally be hers.

Incidentally, the mental asylum that played such a part in the demolition of my granny’s life, was itself demolished in 2011.

Jenny Lloyd is the Welsh author of The Megan Jones trilogy; historical suspense novels set in early, 19th century, rural Wales.

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11 thoughts on “A journey in search of a stolen life.

  1. I was moved to tears reading your account of your grandmother’s incarceration in a mental asylum Jenny. What terrible cruelty. It is so hard to believe that women like Annie suffered the way she did, in the last century – almost in my lifetime. I am lost for words. Thank you so much for telling us Annie’s story.

    • I confess that I am quite haunted by my grandmother’s life since researching it. Perhaps it is because I am the only writer in the family but I feel a huge sense of responsibility to tell her story and set the record straight for her.

  2. Yet again Jenny, your poignant tribute to your grandmother left me reeling with emotions. Anger at such injustice but also heartbreak at the misery Annie was made to endure when her life was already pretty unbearable to start off with. It’s such a waste and reaffirms the fact that life is precious and we should appreciate everything we have. Thanks for sharing your family story because I think it’s a very important one.

    • Yes, E.L.,for certain we should appreciate all we have these days, especially the social changes which have come about. In Annie’s day, there were no safety nets, no women’s refuges. With nine children to support, divorce was not an option. There is a whole lot wrong with our society today, which I often bemoan, but how much worse it was for women a generation or two ago. Having said that, domestic violence is still a reality for many women, in all parts of the world. Only a small portion are able to seek refuge, mainly I believe because the victims are so controlled by their abusive partners that escape is an unimaginable possibility. Annie was robbed of her freedom and the life she could have had, but so are all victims of abusive and controlling partners and so they too suffer an imprisonment, albeit of a different kind. I don’t know what, if anything, can be done about it, as most of it goes on behind closed doors. As I’m writing this, an idea is forming; perhaps when writing Annie’s story I will at least raise awareness of the issues. I’m a great believer in making something good come out of bad.

  3. Jenny,

    While reading this, it struck me immediately that the ability of men to control and incarcerate women transcended social class. I have the impression that Annie was not wealthy, but Wollstonecraft’s heroine was. Socially, one of the things that has changed significantly is that now women are free to make a living, even if we still only get paid 70% of what men make. Plus, there is the ability of women to control their reproductive systems (at least for a while longer in the US). Too many children can be its own form of incarceration.

    I’m looking forward to your book.

    Kathryn

    • Yes, I agree. Effective contraception and being able to make a living have been two of the most effective factors in women’s liberation. Neither were available to Annie. Annie was a fairly wealthy farmer’s daughter, but she married an agricultural labourer and suffered a poorer standard of living as a result.
      Education, too, makes a huge difference. Annie was born in a time and culture when women, in general, were not educated. While she was not expected or encouraged to do anything but marry and have children, her first cousin, a male, was sent to university. He went on to become a Professor of English, was an acclaimed poet here in Wales, and emigrated to Australia.
      I cannot help but feel that Annie’s life would have been very different if she had been offered the same educational opportunities as her cousin.

      • Well, a woman’s right to effective contraception has been moved one step back to the 19th century here in the US after the Supreme Court’s Hobby Lobby decision.

        I hope the book is doing well.

  4. Jenny, thank you for sharing the terrible injustice suffered by your grandmother. My father, now 80, was put in an orphanage by his father at the age of 3 (around 1936/37. For decades he and his late sister (a year older) believed their mother was dead. In the late 80s, and by a complete coincidence, a family friend encountered a lady in a care home with the same surname. After some investigations, this poor woman turned out to be my father’s very alive mother (though sadly suffering from advanced dementia). He now believes she was incarcerated after the birth of a third baby, which was either stillborn or died very young. Perhaps she was suffering from post-natal depression – she would certainly have been grieving for her baby. Sadly, she had no recollection of having had any children and was not able to engage in any meaningful conversation. It seems her whole life, and her children’s childhood, was destroyed because of grief and/or post-natal depression. Thank goodness, things have changed.

    • Your poor grandmother! There were so many injustices in those days which seem downright cruel to us now. It begs belief that such things were allowed to happen but happen they did, and all too frequently. Thank you for sharing, Tracy.

  5. Hi Jenny
    Very sombre reading. My grandmother was put into Talgarth we think in 1946. My father, his sister and brother, the children of Mary Jane never spoke about this and it is only in recent years that we have discovered this. Can I ask where you found the records for your research since we would like to find out more details about our grandmother.

    • Hello, Ynyr Owen. I’m very sad to here of your grandmother’s experience. I applied to the local health board for permission to see the Talgarth records held at Powys archives. This was in 2006 and I’m not sure if they still grant permission. If I were you I would start by contacting Powys archives to establish whether the records are still available to the public. Good luck and very best wishes.

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